This is the first in a planned 6,578 part (or until I get bored with it) series called CONVERSATIONS WITH MY TRAINER. It’s like Neal Donald Walsch’s famous spiritual meditation CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD only shallow. For the most part, this is an excuse to post really hot photos of my trainer. These photos are an attempt to get my trainer more clients. Getting my trainer more clients is my attempt to console him over the fact that I’m still his client, even after eight years of conversations like the one you’re about to read. (Also, it will occasionally serve as a good excuse to re-post what the gay press referred to as “my nearly-nude selfie“, and my friends now refer to as “my mid-life crisis”. Because, you know, fitness…or whatever.)
My trainer’s name is Adam Sprein. He is straight, married and the father of a newborn baby girl. These three facts will either enhance your sex fantasies about him or detract from them, depending on your level of self esteem. But that’s really none of my business. And as you’ll learn, fitness is about the illusion of self esteem. If you want real self esteem, volunteer at a soup kitchen and stop cheating on your taxes.
What is my business is ensuring that each “conversation” in this series contains an actual, tested and proven fitness tip of some sort. The rest of it will be a lot of sarcastic bullshit and completely fabricated exchanges designed to make me look like I’m not a desperate narcissist. I’ll also do my best to make Adam out to be a total hardass who doesn’t spend half of our sessions talking about Xbox (which he totally does). You’ll know when you’ve reached the actual fitness part of the conversation because I’ll set off that portion of the text with this phrase: THIS IS THE ACTUAL FITNESS PART OF THIS POST.
The hot picture of Adam will come at the end. Initially, I chose this layout because I thought it would force you to read the post. Then I realized that if you’re capable of reading anything, you’ve probably figured out how to scroll down to the bottom of a webpage.
CHRISTOPHER: Are you there, Adam? It’s me, Margaret.
ADAM: Who’s Margaret? Is she actually going to work out today?
CHRISTOPHER: Judy Blume humor is just lost on you, isn’t it?
ADAM: Who’s Judy Blume? Another one of those women who writes gay romances?
CHRISTOPHER: I swear to God…
ADAM: So are we actually going to work out today? Or are you going to give me another thirty-minute lecture on the changing nature of digital publishing?
CHRISTOPHER: You’re not interested in the changing nature of digital publishing? I thought it was important to meet clients on their level.
ADAM: In that case, I better get super-interested in Latino gay porn stars.
CHRISTOPHER: That’s just inappropriate.
ADAM: Says the client who keeps telling me to make extra cash by dancing in my underwear at a gay bar.
CHRISTOPHER: This is a city of big dreams, Adam.
ADAM: And big gay bars. Let’s lift some weights.
CHRISTOPHER: What are those?
ADAM: I give up.
CHRISTOPHER: I know what weights are, jackass. I’m asking about the little marks on the bench-press bar. Right here. Is that where I should hang my shoulder bag?
ADAM: No. You should just get a new shoulder bag. I hate that green one.
CHRISTOPHER: I’ll make a note of that. Back to these marks. Is there maybe, like, a TV tray or a cup holder that’s supposed to go here?
ADAM: If there is, we’re not using it. Nine out of your last eleven Facebook posts have been about doughnuts.
CHRISTOPHER: That’s bullshit. They were about my cats.
ADAM: And doughnuts.
CHRISTOPHER: Doughnuts are loaded with Omega-3.
ADAM: If by Omega-3, you mean bullshit.
CHRISTOPHER: Bullshit, it turns out, is also loaded wi —
ADAM: Stop talking. It’s time for some bench presses.
CHRISTOPHER: What are those?
ADAM: That’s the exercise where you lie on a bench and press the weight-bar directly up in the air above your chest while I spot you. If you do it right, which you never do, your chest gets bigger.
CHRISTOPHER: And for our audience at home, what do you mean by spotting?
ADAM: There is no audience at home. We’re at Equinox, one of the best gyms in Los Angeles.
CHRISTOPHER: Indeed. Where else can you watch Paris Hilton walk nose first into a mirrored wall while curling a 5-pound weight?
ADAM: Spotting is where I stand behind the bench in case you need assistance reaching a full extension with both arms. It’s also the part where I turn my face slightly to the side so I don’t get half of your lunch in my face because you thought somewhere in between reps eight and nine was a great time to give me your complete critical analysis of the second season of HOUSE OF CARDS.
CHRISTOPHER: I also like to sing along with the theme music, which is funny because the theme music doesn’t have any lyrics and it’s really kind of dull and —
ADAM: HOOOOOOUSE. HOOOOUSE OF CAAAAAARDS. Yeah, I remember.
CHRISTOPHER: Stop! You’re embarrassing me.
ADAM: No. Those – quote, un-quote – tricep extensions you did upstairs are what’s embarrassing you. Bench presses! Now!
CHRISTOPHER: OK. So obviously the point is to lie down with my back flat on the bench.
******THIS IS THE ACTUAL FITNESS PART OF THIS POST************
ADAM: No. You do not lie with your back pressed flat to the bench during a bench press. In fact, you should have a slight arch to your upper back, and your chest should be slightly raised. Both of your feet should be planted squarely on the floor on either side of the bench so you can drive through them while you press the bar upward and retract it smoothly and with control. The most important thing to remember about all chest exercises is that if they’re done incorrectly, the stress will be felt in your shoulders and not in your chest. Bad form will result in overdeveloped shoulders and minimal muscle growth in your pectorals. So with each bench press, make sure your upper back is slightly arched, your chest slightly raised and you can actually feel your chest muscles squeezing together as you extend and retract.
*****THIS IS THE END OF THE ACTUAL FITNESS PART OF THIS POST******
CHRISTOPHER: Thanks, Adam. I think that will really helpful to the five people who read this post for the fitness portion.
ADAM: It might also be helpful to my client who’s always bitching about how he doesn’t have a big chest.
CHRISTOPHER: That girl from GLEE?
ADAM: Leave Jenna out of this.
CHRISTOPHER: Wait. You’re talking about me? You said it’s hard for tall people to develop big chest muscles quickly.
ADAM: I said that eight years ago during our first session. Define “quickly”.
CHRISTOPHER: Since when are you such a wordsmith? And when are you going to finish that website Jenna linked to in her Seventeen Magazine article about you?
ADAM: Stop deflecting. You still haven’t done a bench press.
CHRISTOPHER: Oh, yeah. Give me some incentive. What will I look like if I do?
ADAM: Well, now that you mention it….
CHRISTOPHER: Are you the guy on the left or the guy on the right?
ADAM: I’m leaving. The treadmills are over there.
Anne G.Sanchez says
That was hilarious, thanks for sharing
That was perfect and I feel like I might have some color on my body compared to you. You look great either way. Keep those doughnuts going!!
This needs to be in an issue of Men’s Fitness. It’s high on the homoerotocism and light on the fitness.. just the way I like it. BTW, you’re both hot, but you could use some bronzer. Just sayin’. : )
GREAT STUFF!!!!!!!! if thats how your trainer interacts with you SIGN ME UP (ok i live in a little town in new jersey so it might be difficult for him to train me but still) LOL
and KEEP the snark coming.. if nothing else i can use those snarky comments to myself in the mirror in the gym when i get done with only 2 of 10 (of the first set) and decide i have done enough for now and that those two have fully developed my chest 🙂
Elise Hepner says
I also sing to the House of Cards music. You’re not alone!
George Raya says
I found the conversation with your trainer very informative! So, you like gay Latinos? 🙂
Love it. I think you’re on to something. Adam is a wonderful guy! Go boys!
Brilliant. Can’t wait for more! 🙂
Rick Anthony Salinas says
8 years, really?
I could only stay committed to two things for that length of time: my cat and post-secondary education.
I do not believe it is the illusion of self-esteem that keeps you company. Chinese cuisine, 80’s alt-rock/90’s trip-hop music, and Hong Kong cinema offer more companionship than any gym trainer. By the way, the guy on the left is far more handsome.
Devon Hunter says
I didn’t know that about bench presses… an arch in the upper back, eh?
So my trainer has demanded a bit of a correction on this detail, which I may add in Conversations Part II. However, another trainer claimed to know exactly what I meant when I described it in this way. You don’t necessarily want an arch in your upper back, but you also don’t want your upper back pressed flat to the bench either. Adam describes it as a more of mid-range arch so that your chest muscles are flexed as you begin.
Witty, loved it 🙂